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moving Anonymous 10/31/2021 (Sun) 06:47:32 No. 5677
/late/friends, I need some advice. I live in an abusive household and finally have the means to move out but I have no idea where to go. I don't want to live in this city or state both because it's expensive and also because I have a lot of bad memories here. I just want to get out and get far away. The money I make isn't great but it's a livable wage (I can make 2k-4k/mo depending how much I work and I also have a good bit saved up). The problem is I have no idea where to go... do you guys have any advice for what to think about when deciding on a new place to live? What are some things I should look for or be considering in new cities? I feel really lost and kind of intimidated. I just know I need to get out and I finally have a chance to do it.
>>5677 Well, first things first - don't rush. You'll just end up homeless if you do. Plan ahead, survey the area for places you can live in. Ask around and compare prices. And above all, don't let anyone know you're moving.
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>>5677 i guess it depends on how you would like to live going forward. this is a pretty big lifestyle change you're talking about here. depending on how much you currently have + how much you could feasibly make elsewhere, as well as what kind of place you wanna get. would you be renting an apartment? that could hold you temporarily until you can afford something else. would you be able to get work easily? plenty of places are hiring right now, but they may not pay as well as your current job. basically, you need to have a firm understanding of what you have and what you're looking for, and it'll help narrow down your options.
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>>5678 Being homeless with money isn't so bad. It beats the hell out of living with abusive people. Relative to the latter, it's a problem that can actually be managed and improved upon. >>5677 I know we're just strangers on the internet, but coming from a very similar place and always wished I was offered the help, I can't help but feel compelled. Here's my Discord if you'd like to talk: coolmaster#4975 And don't be shy! Not like it's pure sacrifice on my end. It brings great meaning to my life being able to help. And just a hunch, but something tells me you might be a quality person to share time with. :)
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>>5677 Good numbers, fren. I would recommend you head as far away from the major cities as is possible. The country can have its own problems though, so I recommend a small town usually. As far as the State to live in, I would offer Alaska, Texas, or the Dakotas as prime options, due to both the cost of living and risk of government fuckery. Whatever you do, avoid leasing at all costs and rent only if necessary. Maybe get a small ranch? Assuming you will be living alone naturally.
If you're young, you'll probably enjoy living near a major metropolitan area. You don't need to live in the big city but perhaps in the suburbs in the periphery. Avoid: - NYC - Expensive and CoL too high without a well-paying job - Los Angeles - this place is a soul-draining hell - Bay Area - High CoL and too much theft too Perhaps consider Atlanta, Austin, or Seattle
I'm not you, but if I were I'd get some vehicle that I could live in until I find a permanent place. As it is, I don't have much financial resource, but I lucked out in that I have a friend willing to let me stay with him for a bit. I gotsta move too. :(
>>5998 I'd agree with Atlanta, but it's public transportation is terrible and traffic can cause you nearly two hours to get across the town at peak hours. Seattle ftw.
I appreciate all the input and advice so far anons, it has helped. I have my sights set on Seattle and am planning to do it some time within the coming months. I'm just taking some time to make sure of my financial stability and not mess anything up. Thanks for everyone who pitched in their 2 cents, and >>5810 for offering to talk. Even though I've been too apprehensive to add you for now I really appreciate the gesture. I'll post another update after I've done it successfully and let you guys know how it went.
sounds like dealing with finances is a big problem for lots of people - I'm not very employable, and whenever I apply to low level entry jobs they're usually just looking for people in the immediate area so how do other people deal with this? just move, cross your fingers and hope you can find a job before you run out of money? I only ever hear about people moving because they find work for some high paying tech company that'll fly candidates over for onsite job interviews
If you (or anyone) still need advice, the key is to just save up where you're at. Once you have your safety net, move somewhere that either pays well, has lots of job opportunities, or at least low cost of living to give you a cushion while you look for something. If you can't save up where you're at, you'll just need to consider how much risk you can take when moving. Worst case if you have a car, you can live in that for a period of time, but you need to make sure the neighborhood is safe, or you can park somewhere safe at night. I'll be moving at the end of summer, but I'm moving specifically for my job field. You need to consider your own field, or the opportunity of entry-level jobs if you don't have work experience or expertise. >>6032 My last retail job hired people from far away despite being a populated metro area. Employers usually don't care so long as you can make it to work on-time.
>>6032 I did it, I got a job in a different country and I moved, even though I have no work experience. I wrote a python script to spam out applications on indeed.com for about 3 days, over 1700 applications sent in the end I got a nice tech job where my employer is paying for plane ticket, the hotel I'm staying at etc. relying on an employer still doesn't seem like a solid plan to me though, this feels like dumb luck


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